My parents divorced when we were kids. My stepmom is jealous of our closeness with Mom.
She attends our events overdressed and makes snarky comments about “her kids” while glaring at Mom.
I’m getting married and haven’t included her in the preparations.
When I told her, she said, “Well, I hope your little event doesn’t fall apart without real support.”

I should’ve seen it coming.

I’ve never called her “Mom.” Her name is Livia, and even though she married Dad when I was twelve, she’s always felt more like a pushy neighbor than family. I’m the oldest of three—me, my sister Zaya, and our baby brother Malik. Well, he’s twenty now, but still the baby to us.

After the divorce, we spent weekdays with Mom and weekends at Dad’s. It worked well—until Livia started trying to edge our mother out. She’d make passive-aggressive remarks like, “I don’t know what your real mom feeds you, but here we eat balanced meals,” or, “I can’t believe she let you wear that.” It was subtle, but it stacked up over time.

Now I’m thirty and planning my wedding to Kiran, the most patient man on earth. We’ve been together six years. He’s seen the drama and somehow still volunteered to marry into it. We wanted a small, emotional wedding—no fluff, no fake smiles.

I involved my mom in everything. Dress shopping. Menu tasting. Invitations. When I told her I wanted her to walk me halfway down the aisle and hand me off to Dad for the rest—because they both raised me, in their own ways—she cried. I cried too.

Livia wasn’t part of it.

It wasn’t even a deliberate snub at first. I just didn’t feel close enough. We’ve never had heart-to-hearts. She’s never comforted me through a breakup or sat through my piano recitals unless Dad made her. When Zaya got into college, Livia congratulated her with, “Well, let’s hope you don’t flunk out like most freshmen.” She just… doesn’t do warm.

So when I sat her down at my parents’ house—yes, I still call it that—and told her the wedding details, I didn’t expect tears or smiles. I just wanted to be transparent.

Her face froze.

“You’re including her in everything, and I get what? A seat and a chicken entrée?”

I swallowed. “Livia, I appreciate you being there. But it’s my wedding. I want people around me who make me feel at ease.”

She let out a sharp laugh. “You mean people who kiss your mother’s ring.”

That’s when Dad stepped in, gently. “Liv, let’s not do this here.”

She stood up like she was at the Oscars, smoothed her blouse, and said, “I hope you enjoy your picture-perfect little ceremony. I won’t stand in the way.”

Zaya and I exchanged looks. The way she said “won’t stand in the way” didn’t feel like peace. It felt like a promise.

The next few weeks were calm, too calm.

Livia posted vague things on Facebook like “Some people forget who’s always been there for them” and “Fake family makes for fragile occasions.” My mom ignored it. Dad apologized in quiet phone calls. I kept my head down and focused on final touches—music, seating, cake.

The night before the wedding, Zaya came into my hotel room looking pale.

“You might want to sit for this.”

She held up her phone. A friend of ours had spotted Livia at a high-end boutique—trying on gowns. Not just any gowns. White gowns. Bridal ones.

“I’m sure she’s just being dramatic,” I said, but my stomach dropped.

Zaya gave me a long look. “You know she lives for this kind of stunt.”

I barely slept that night.

I kept imagining her crashing the ceremony, making a scene, ruining everything. My heart pounded through my chest the next morning as I got my makeup done.

Mom brought me tea and said, “No matter what happens today, this is your day. Don’t give her your energy.”

Kiran’s cousin Ravi had heard about the dress situation and offered to keep an eye out. We quietly asked the ushers to alert us if Livia arrived wearing anything “disruptive.”

The ceremony began. Music swelled. I walked down the aisle with Mom, then Dad took over. Everyone was beaming. For a moment, it felt perfect.

Until I saw her.

Midway through the front row, three seats from Dad—there she was. Livia. Wearing white. Not quite a wedding gown, but close enough: a floor-length satin dress, beaded neckline, her hair done in an updo clearly styled for attention.

She had on more makeup than I’d ever seen her wear. Her expression was cool, unreadable.

My legs wobbled. I almost stumbled.

Kiran squeezed my hand at the altar. His eyes flicked toward her, then back to me, silently asking: do we keep going?

I nodded.

We said our vows. People cried. The moment held.

But I couldn’t relax.

At the reception, she hovered like a stormcloud. Not quite causing drama, but absolutely soaking up attention. She cornered relatives and introduced herself as “the bride’s other mother.” Told Kiran’s aunt that she was the reason I turned out strong. Gave a long, unsolicited toast that started with, “Not all mothers are biological, and sometimes we don’t get the credit we deserve.”

I wanted to scream.

But then—something shifted.

During dinner, my cousin Najla leaned in and whispered, “Livia’s dress just split down the back.”

I blinked. “What?”

“She bent over to fix her heel and rrrip. You can totally see the zipper popped.”

I turned slightly. Sure enough—there was a six-inch gap between the seams under her shoulder blades. One of the waiters was offering her a jacket. Her face was tight with rage.

She refused the jacket. Stormed out for twenty minutes. Came back wearing someone’s spare shawl wrapped awkwardly around her middle.

And then karma dealt the final blow.

Unbeknownst to us, one of our friends had hired a local photographer to capture candid moments during cocktail hour. Not just for the couple, but as a surprise gift for guests. The photographer had caught Livia earlier, mid-toilet-paper trail, heel broken, lipstick smeared from her wineglass.

The shots ended up on the family slideshow during the “funny moments” segment.

She wasn’t identified by name, but it was unmistakably her. The room erupted in laughter. She left early.

I felt a little bad. But only a little.

After that day, she barely spoke to us for months. My dad apologized again, deeply this time.

“She’s hurt, but she brought it on herself,” he said.

I told him I wasn’t looking for her to grovel. Just to stop making everything a competition.

A year later, she reached out with a surprisingly calm message: “Would you like to have coffee sometime? I owe you one honest conversation.”

We met. No drama. Just two women, tired of the tug-of-war.

She said, “I was trying so hard to matter to your dad that I forgot how to just… exist around you kids.”

It wasn’t an apology, exactly, but it was more than I ever expected.

I told her, “All I ever needed was respect. Not a replacement mom. Just someone who didn’t try to erase what we already had.”

She nodded. “Fair enough.”

We don’t talk every week. But we’ve found a truce.

At Malik’s college graduation, she sat next to Mom—without snide comments, without stealing focus. Just quietly proud.

Sometimes people won’t love you the way you want—but they’re still capable of learning.

Family doesn’t have to mean constant closeness. But it should mean mutual respect.

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